My bad attitude ruins many moments.In the past week alone:
- I heard the children rise with the sun while my husband snoozed on. While this isn’t an abnormal occurrence in my house, for some reason that day, my attitude was sour towards him because I was tired and wanted to sleep in.
- I expressed disappointments, in a way, which hurt and discouraged him.
- I didn’t get my way, so I (very maturely) martyred myself on the altar of self-righteousness.
- Just tonight, with half of this blog post written, I snapped at my husband when he didn’t meet my expectations.
My husband is a true peacemaker. He rarely grows frustrated and blesses our entire family with his attitude. I, on the other hand, am not as kind. I take things too personally, am unwise in my word choices, and can easily get my panties into a wad.
The sad truth is that when I am grumpy, I am not the only one who loses. My husband and my children pay the price for my lack of self-control. I make daily choices to exchange the good for the ugly. I invite stress in and make marriage harder than it has to be all because I allow my feelings drive the boat. While I can try to justify my mood, the truth is, there is never, ever an excuse for my bad attitude. Like everything else, it is a choice. A wife’s attitude is the rudder of her home. I so often forget the simple fact that, I can spoil or improve a moment simply by the outlook I choose to cultivate. I want to bless my husband — and our children — with my attitude and yet I daily (hourly) fail in this area.
“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus…” (Philippians 2:5). I need the same mindset as Christ Jesus! I need His help to achieve it! I want to be a wife who is selfless, humble, kind, wise with my words, forgiving, graceful, assumes the best of my husband, and considers him before myself. I want to be intentional with my attitude, tone of voice, and the smile on my face. It will take work, effort, and putting away my need to be right, but what a blessing it would be to my marriage if this wife experienced an attitude adjustment.
How does your attitude influence your marriage?!