Husbands need encouragement… more often than we realize! Here are some ways we can offer our precious life mate support that inspires confidence:
- Pray for him and with him daily.
- Share Scriptures, in written and oral form, which speak into his current situations.
- If your husband is a Christian, thank him for taking you to church, praying before meals, and meeting with an accountability partner.
- Allow him to pursue and protect you.
- Learn his love language and speak it often.
- Tell him every day that you believe in him.
- Send him daily texts with something specific you love about him.
- Send a weekly e-mail recounting how he has been a good husband, father, and employee.
- Place sticky-notes all over his desk, closet, and car with words of encouragement, your commitment, and inside jokes.
- Dry Erase markers work great on bathroom mirrors and bathtub crayons work great in the shower – leave him little notes in these places that express how attracted you are to him (use the word HOT).
- Smile often to communicate your happiness in the life you share with him.
- Never miss an opportunity to brag about him (especially if he is in earshot).
- Speak highly of him to friends, your children, his parents, and your parents.
- Respect and accept his family.
- Never, ever belittle him or make a joke at his expense.
- Never name call or use harsh tones.
- Tell him you respect him and that he is your hero.
- Comment on how brave he is, but make it clear that you don’t expect him to be fearless.
- Thank him for being an honorable man.
- When he comes home from work, greet him with kiss and thank him for working so hard.
- Let him know he was missed when he was gone.
- Decorate the front door with streamers, signs, balloons, and confetti to welcome him home.
- Laugh at his jokes.
- Listen to his stories.
- Ask for his opinion on things and then take his advice.
- Ask him questions such as, “how did that make you feel?”
- Ask him what you can do to make him feel loved and supported.
- Listen to his responses to the question above and follow through!
- Understand that he is under pressure at his job and as he leads your family – give acknowledgment that he carries that stress and thank him for it.
- Maintain eye contact during conversations.
- Be the first to apologize.
- Offer quick and complete forgiveness.
- Be on his side.
- Submit without sulking.
- Show him respect 100% of the time.
- Stand with him in parenting.
- Invite friends and family members to write him a note sharing ways God has used him in their lives.
- Share with him why you feel God has placed him in your family and in his career.
- Ask him to share ways he thinks God is using him.
- Take notice of the areas your husband is wanting to improve in and then praise him when he makes small steps in reaching his goal.
- Buy him a small gift for him for no reason.
- Treat him to a “Father’s Day” once a month! (Decorate a cake that says #1 Dad, have the children make him signs, etc).
- Allow your husband the time to pursue a hobby.
- Enthusiastically support his dreams and ambitions.
- Plan creative dates that he would enjoy.
- Allow him to pursue and protect you.
- When out to eat, secretly have the waiter bring him a card with his dinner.
- In public, give him a suggestive wink.
- Initiate a long, slow, and passionate kiss.
- Don’t ever underestimate the power of a healthy God-centered sex life.
As you encourage your man, remember that he will be able to tell if you are sincere or not. Inauthentic praise can be easily detected so be sure to mean what you say!! Don’t wait for your husband to deserve your encouragement or support! He needs it constantly! Give freely and give often!
How do you encourage your husband?
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. -Hebrews 3:13
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