Hi, I’m Darby!
A recovering people-pleaser who, as a 39-years old woman, painfully attempts to put those faults aside as I write. Discouragement often fills my heart when I read other marriage blogs because I can’t seem to master, even on my best days, the wonderful tips and advice they offer. So, here I am, sharing where I screwed up in my marriage this week… it happens daily, so I never run out of material, ha.
The funny part about all of this is I don’t feel like a gifted writer nor would I have chosen this path for myself… I guess that is how God works most of the time. His calling for me to write is undeniable and so I’m just trying to be faithful even though I cringe each time I hit the “publish” button. This blog launched after the success of my first book, For the Love of Our Husbands, a devotional that truly changed my life and marriage during the year it took to write.
When I am faithful in writing vulnerable posts, God is faithful in blessing my obedience through invitations to speak at Bible studies, retreats, MOMS groups, women’s events, and more. Public speaking is my true passion and a skill that the Lord has developed in my life. Want me to come to your next event?! Send me an e-mail because I would love to!
I’ve been married to the love of my life, Jason Dugger, for seventeen years!
And we homeschool our six children: Havana, Jonah, Selah, Asa, Hezekiah, and Isaiah. And we also have a pet tortoise because who doesn’t want a sweet shell baby.
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Thanks for allowing me a place to share all of my flaws. I am trusting God to redeem my mistakes!
Tonia Harper says
Hi Darby,
I’m a wife of almost 17 years and three children 21, 17, and 15 two handsome sons and a beautiful daughter. Being married is truly a challenge but I wouldn’t trade it for anything! I came across your devotions somewhere along Facebook. I’m always looking for ways to pray for our marriage and specifically my husband. You see I gave my life to Christ in 2006 I was always taught growing up about Jesus, went to Sunday school and bible school not by my parents taking my brother, sister and I but because the church bus came to us…long story short he’s always been in my life but never truly accepted him til 2006 shortly after my three children followed. Sadly to admit our church began falling apart I ended up leaving in 2012 since then we searched for other churches my kids and I found another church but something happened there last year our Pastor left whom my husband connected with. We were upset and never returned now we have been out over a year 🙁 my love for Christ and my faith has not changed but we need prayer and encouragement daily as we all do. My husband has never accepted Christ but I pray daily for him, our marriage our family.
darbyd says
Hi Tonia! I am just now seeing this comment, sorry it has taken me a while to reply. I will be praying for your husband to accept Christ and for you to find a vibrant and faithful church! Thanks for sharing your story!
Regina says
I need prayers
darbyd says
I will certainly be praying for you. I saw your other comment and cannot advice you specifically since i do not know you or your situation. I would say, that you need to find your fulfillment and satisfaction in God alone, not in a man or a husband. Purity in all relationships is a must as well. Thanks for reaching out.
Regina says
The man i love and have a daughter with lives another woman. I would love to have a family of my own ie a husband,he stills insists that he loves me and will marry me soon. I dont believe him and yet cant get over him. Advice me
Lisa says
Leave!! That’s not God’s will for your life.
L.Darby says
I am a 40-year-old male-
I have been reading some of these postings and it is one of those “on the outside looking in” type things as we all know while we ourselves have issues with our partner(s) it is easier for us to see the obvious in someone else’s relationship rather than ours, that is why judging cannot be permitted while trying to give advice to people that are in situations where they obviously should leave that particular partner, but who are we to say? We are all different the only thing we all have in common on this planet is that we all have the same true God and a loving God.
I have been married twice and one thing I learned for a fact is that you cannot “make someone love you”. I have met men and women that say they are God-fearing Christians, yet turn “LOVE” off and on as if it were a light switch. God is great but he is not a marriage counselor bahaha however, if the one that you love comes home from work and opens the door to your house and you don’t have that feeling that the house instantly turned into a happy home, then maybe we are not with the person that God intended us to be with and we chose this person for our own selfish reasons what ever that may be. A lot of us knows this but we try to full ourselves that we could change or we could make our partners change, but why that’s who they are that is there being. We try and try a lot of times subconsciously for the sake of our children, but I think we could all agree that no matter the child’s age, children are not stupid! And we could be causing more harm than good by staying. Your husband could be the ideal husband the ideal father the ideal provider but if your heart does not melt at just the mere thought of him coming home from work, rather, he stayed at work longer so you could have some more alone time, then you really need to rethink your situation and at the very least do what is best for your children! I thought I was so in love with my first wife after three years I realized that we had absolutely zero in common and left, one week later she called and told me she was pregnant, the prideful person that I am went back to her to stay another five years.