I am not a praying wife!
Don’t misunderstand me… I pray for my husband! In fact, I adore bringing Jason before his Creator!
Yet, there is a difference between praying for my husband and being a praying wife.
In moments of choice, I feel the Lord prompting me to speak with Him, but often, I ignore His invitation. I do so because, in all honesty, it is easier to forgo the prayer and remain unchanged! I choose not to be a praying wife because I’d rather pout, hold onto my frustration, or not submit to my husband (or the Lord)!
It is easy to be selfish and justify my own behavior when I decide that I will not be a prayerful wife. On the other hand, it is much harder to dwell in sin or rationalize my thoughts when I approach His throne and ask, sincerely, to be made into His very likeness.
To be a woman who honors the Lord, I can’t remain a wife who merely prays for her husband. I must become a praying wife, as well! I cannot be a wife after God’s own heart without His help! I must allow Him to change me (my heart, my desires, my will, my pride, my struggles…) no matter how uncomfortable the transformation process is.
Ultimately, when I can get past myself and truly become a praying wife… my husband will be blessed, our children will be blessed, and I will be blessed!
Do you see the difference? Would you consider yourself to be a praying wife?
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Tina West says
Wow, this speaks volumes to my heart. The Lord has just reminded me, that so often I to choose my own dysfunctional way of communicating with my husband, even when His Holy Spirit has prompted me to be careful with my words and actions. I must stop, pray, listen to the Lord, and be obedient to His wise counsel. I am also reminded of Ephesians 4:29 – Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building others up, so that it may benefit those who listen.
darbyd says
Yes, Tina! Such wise words and LOVE that verse in Ephesians 4:29… Thank you so much for reading and commenting. Love you, sweet friend!
Shannon Payne (@SimplySaidMom) says
Darby- thank you for your transparency. Your words resonated with me today, and unfortunately I fear I am also not a ‘praying wife’. Let us pray for one another, for strength and wisdom, and for the Lord to direct our every thought towards Him.
darbyd says
Hi Shannon! Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I appreciate your encouragement. Yes, let’s pray for each other! I will certainly pray for you and I know I need all the prayers I can get in this area. 🙂
Amanda says
This hit home more than I can express. I can say without doubt that I am NOT a praying wife – I struggle to pray for my husband to begin with, and it certainly is not a way of life. God has already been convicting me on this point, and your post brought the point home. I want to be a praying wife – I want to reach a point where my reaction to my husband is based in prayer and love, not frustration, irritation and anger. Thank you, Darby, for what you are doing to encourage us all in our journeys as wives!
darbyd says
Thanks for sharing, Amanda! I want to be a wife whose reaction to my husband is based in prayer as well! I will be praying for you (and myself) as we strive for this together. Thank you for commenting!
Kaylene says
Thank you for these wise insights!
darbyd says
Thank you! For reading, commenting, and sharing! Loved looking at your blog too!
susan musai oyekola says
Hi praying wife’s, I want u to join me in praying for my husband, his being infulenced by his sister and she is trying to put another woman in his life so dat he can forget me. Pls jst put me in your prayers. Thank u and God bless